How to get rid of a too “heavy” lover?
Getting hit on is always nice. But sometimes the seducer becomes a real drag. He does not let you go and multiplies the distressing jokes. You don't know how to get out of it? Follow our advice.
It can be your office or bus neighbor. Clumsy or too sure of himself, he amuses you at first, gives you a few interested glances ... then doesn't let go of your bunch! In short, being flirted can very quickly become boring. The only consolation is that it affects both women and men. Profile of the love-type and offers you some solutions to escape its clutches. Learn to recognize it first... The flirty cannot be recognized by his size, his physique, his voice or even his gender (yes, women can be too!). As for the "heavy", the difference is due among other things to the love story of the person concerned, often quite empty. In this case, it is even harder to avoid the person in question. Worse still, there is also the kind "flirt of the holidays": impossible to return it since you participate in the same party. You will therefore have to put up with his exclamations and bantering until the end of the night. But what is the purpose of the lover? Bring the prey home? Marry him? Have one more phone number in your directory? Well, contrary to what one might think some big lovers are above all big ... shy. They give themselves some composure by attacking first. They are used to failures but tell them that they have nothing more to lose. Their goal is ultimately to dare to approach someone, even if it means making a fool of them. So don't be too harsh on them ... unless they come out of obscenity to you. “I came to tell you...” “... that I am leaving", Serge Gainsbourg would answer. To successfully escape the flirty, you have three solutions: a nice one, a cowhide and a neutral. I remain polite (e) He's been holding your leg for 10 minutes. 10 minutes you check your watch every 30 seconds hoping it will pass the time faster. But no, he won't let go. What a bad idea to have made an appointment with your friend in this café ... and especially to have arrived in advance! First, you got a big hello to which you politely responded. And then there is the endless question "What does the young lady want to drink?". Followed by "Would you mind settling down for two minutes?", With the pleading eyes of a dog beaten up. You said yes. It was ten minutes ago. Soon eleven. To pack it up, without jeopardizing your parents' education, simply ask it to leave you alone because you would like to think it over or to clear the table because you are waiting for friends. And if he doesn't let go, go to the second solution! Go see elsewhere if I'm there! This second strategy is much more direct. You save on words drastically. Address him by fixing him straight in the eye and tell him, as you wish: 1 / that you are not interested 2 / to leave yourself alone 3 / to go and see elsewhere if I am there! You may of course receive an unpleasant remark in return. But the result is 90% guaranteed. And if he does not even seem to listen to your comments and your desires, there is only one solution left: to find your way. Do whatever you want, I ignore you ... The goal of this third maneuver is simple: to be deaf, dumb and blind. You should not answer him (unless he asks you if you want him to go ... and again!), Do not speak to him, do not look at him. Continue your activity as if nothing had happened. On the bus, read the newspaper. In the cafe, do Sudoku puzzles. At the pool, take a breaststroke. In short, ignore it! After a little while, he'll shut up, embarrassed and ashamed to see that he's having no effect on you. Finally, if he continues to annoy you heavily, ask for help around you. When a tall, handsome, muscular guy tells him to shut up, that will surely have an effect. And, with any luck, this clone of Barbie's fiancé will be single. This is not a reason to love him... heavily.