What to do with these invasive mothers-in-law?
Three robot portraits are enough to describe all the cumbersome mothers-in-law. The sticky, the intrusive and the destructive.
The sticky just wants to be useful and hasn't understood that her child has grown up and can therefore be independent. The intrusive, she does not see in the name of what she would stay outside the couple after all the sacrifices she has made. As for the destructive, possessive pathological or incurably jealous, she is in competition with the whole world and will stop at nothing to torpedo your couple. Don't worry, the stepmother's instructions are universal as you will discover in this article. In the first case, she does tons of it because she wants to be useful. And go ahead and let me bring you a leek pie here, a homemade jam there. She wants you to love her and tell her darling child, in case he doesn't know, that she's awesome. She needs recognition and does not seek to harm. It is the easiest to manage. To channel her, punctually decline her offers and do not always be available to her. Encourage her to participate in charitable actions that will fulfill her need for recognition and keep her at a reasonable distance from your couple. In the second case, she fears nothing more than loneliness. Her child was her reason for living. By marrying her you have carried out neither more nor less than a putsch. Relentless, she will try to recover her property (her son or her daughter) by often crude stratagems. She will do anything to make you feel guilty. Every sore she experiences, every annoyance is your fault. She will often sing the verse to you: I gave everything, nothing was given back to me. To get rid of him, you must not play his game. Show him a respectful distance and polite indifference. In the third case, you are dealing with a harpy who relies on division to reign. She wants to derail the couple because you are not up to it. Often, she will play a double game: pleasant in front, ruthless behind your back. With this kind of mother-in-law, there is no choice but to draw up a sanitary cordon between your couple and her. Let your partner see her whenever he wants and stay out of family gatherings. Do not insist, do not argue, do not justify yourself. There is only one good attitude: distance. Whoever the mother-in-law is, he does keep a little distance. Formal use is a good way to avoid a relationship that is too close, which can one day or another cause problems.