Men beaten by their wives, is it really unbelievable?
For the majority of people, men and women combined, evoking beaten men is incredible! The subject is taboo and little documented.
Of course, mistreatment towards men represents a minority in the overall phenomenon of domestic violence but even if these cases are less important than those of violence, these cases exist and behind each of them are also played a human drama and family! What form of violence? All violence but, psychological violence seems to be more developed by the aggressors. The nature of this violence and its modes of expressions reflect a specifically feminine, subtle violence, which reaches the psychic integrity of man through direct or indirect processes. It is often concentrated on a work of unraveling and denigration of the different roles held by man in both private and public spheres, roles that build his identity. The spouse is not unleashed, but contains her emotions. The violent woman is a "passive aggressive". It does not directly wear blows which reach the body of the other, but on the contrary, it often refuses all bodily contact. Psychological violence is lodged there in the negation of the physical relationship to the other. "With me, she does not destroy my things. I think she knows that the easiest way to have power over me is not to do something bad, but not to do things to which I hold . For example, if I obey, I will have a good meal, if not a bad one ", testify a man. examples of violence on men by women She puts man in total dependence. He ends up no longer thinking about himself or existing as such. The violent woman infiltrates the work of her spouse by denigrating her professional skills, by not supporting periods of stress or her training approaches, by invading the workplace, by openly taking a position in professional decisions or relations With colleagues. What puts man hurts and discredits him. It reduces the social ties of the spouse and the couple by isolating man. This approach towards isolation has two objectives: to protect the relationship of violence and destroy the husband's public and sociable sides. Sage on her role as a lover: sexual relations are programmed exclusively by women. The sexual act is constrained. Violence also exercised by women by systematically refusing to her spouse. Sage in his role as father: reduction, for example, of family sharing time. Some women prohibit their spouse from eating together with the rest of the family ... Why do they continue to undergo this violence? For the same reasons as women: economic reasons and for children . The labor market is increasingly unstable, many men sometimes find themselves dependent on the salary of their wife. In addition, they have nowhere to take refuge. Men hesitate to leave because they are aware that women obtain, during the divorce, the guard (often exclusive of children). undergo to protect yourself . Men who undergo the repeated violence of their spouse, contain themselves, control their reactions for fear of their own strength. The slightest physical defense gesture, and the situation can turn against them. The woman lodging for strokes. Others feel responsible or helpless, not knowing how to react. shame . The reason underlying all these reasons is shame. The beaten man feels shame, his image is destroyed, his identity reduced in each. The man feels more harm than women to reveal to his peers this traumatic situation. Man is supposed to be the strong element in the family cell, the one who protects. There he is in a weak position. So, he hides this violence more by trivializing it.